How do I get out of this guilt circle?

So, I have a boyfriend and I love him so much! Sometimes he can be really inconsiderate and doesn't really treat me like an equal. I've been "friends with benefits" with my best friends ex-boyfriend. They were together for a really long time, but their relationship fell through, I always thought he was a super great guy though. He lives with roommates, who are mutual friends between me, him, and her. Their usually not home, but sometimes i'll run into them walking out. I worry about the news spreading to my friend and I worry about my boyfriend finding out. How do I get out of this circle with no guilt?